January 14th, 2011

Kink.com Apologizes For The Greatest Press Release Of All Time

Personally I thought Kink.com's press release about streaming a girl losing her virginity was awesome.

But, apparently, the rest of the blogosphere disagreed with me so Kink.com has issued an apology.

I should note that it's perhaps the greatest apology ever. It's a fucking BDSM porn company using feminist language to explain how and why they feel they made a mistake and say they feel bad for perpetuating myths about female sexuality.

Seriously. How fucking cool is that?

Sarah Palin could learn a lot from these people. Rock on, Kink.com.

Rock the fuck on.

Here it is for people who can't visit NSFW sites.

"Sexuality and pornography are very charged topics that mean extraordinarily different things to different people. No matter what choices one makes as a porn producer, there will be critics. At Kink, we realize that what we do isn't for everyone and we're okay with that. But we also pride ourselves on our ability to truly listen and recognize when we've made a mistake, as we did recently with the way we marketed the "deflowering of a virgin" on The Upper Floor.

Several months ago, a young lady named Nicki Blue approached Kink with a very specific and determined request — to be penetrated vaginally for the first time in front of an audience and broadcast it live on the internet. She had already been exploring her sexuality quite extensively, including anal and oral sex, but she had reserved her vagina — with its corona in tact — for the moment when she could live out this particular fantasy.

I was extremely honored that Nicki felt that Kink as the place where she could be comfortable acting out what had been a longstanding and powerful fantasy — one that hinged entirely on her concept of virginity. A concept that was not worded in a medically factual way, but nevertheless has profound sexual meaning for her and many others.

A lot of discussion and thought was given to whether holding this kind of event fit into Kink's mission — to demystify and celebrate alternative sexualities by providing the most ethical and authentic kinky adult entertainment. We debated internally for months, but finally came to the conclusion that we are in the business of fantasy fulfillment and that we could help her have the experience she was looking for in a way that would be positive for everyone — Nicki herself, the gentlemen she would be acting out the fantasy with, and the members whom she would be sharing this experience.

Instead of showing our gratitude to Nicki for choosing Kink to fulfill her sexual fantasy — to break her hymen during her first vaginal sex experience in front of thousands of fans — we marketed it in a way that relied on sexist tropes and myths about the female body that we should not have perpetuated. And that fact was rightfully brought to our attention by bloggers who hold us to a much higher standard than that. We truly thank them for it and are gratified to see issues surrounding female sexuality, virginity and sexism being discussed in public forums —even if it was as a result of our screw up.

The controversy also sparked some very serious internal discussions at Kink about where things went awry, what our values are as a company, and how we can do better in the future. For now, we're 100% committed to helping ensure that Nicki's first vaginal sex experience on Saturday is an amazing, unforgettable experience for everyone involved. We hope to see you there. "