Last night Rome Girl and I were watching the YouTube video of the Tom Petty Super Bowl halftime show and I remarked "The guys in the stands must be loving hearing him sing American Girl with the American flag behind him."
"Yeah," Rome Girl responded. "Even though they don't realize the song is really about the death of the American Dream."
"Fuck," I said. "I love you."
And I meant it.
Because this is an argument I've made to almost every girl I've ever dated. That American Girl is an angry song and not a love song. It's something about desperation and the end of dreams and a remembrance of things past.
I'd never made this argument with Rome Girl. Because she doesn't really like rock and roll. And she really hates singers like Tom Petty (and Dylan and Axl Rose, because she hates that vocal styling). And I'd never won the argument with people who did care about rock and roll and did like that particular Wilbury.
And yet, without me saying anything, she understood what that song meant and because I was watching it and listening to it, gave enough of a shit to make an intelligent comment. And, a provocative one - because she had no idea if I'd agree with her or not.
So, when I said "I love you," I meant it in the only way that matters. In the way that someone I've slept next to for four years can still surprise me and impress me and never, ever bore me.
And this makes me want to embrace her over and over again.
P.S. We don't agree on everything. Later we were talking about "Free Falling." She says that he feels "free falling" because he's so in love with her. "It's the feeling he has when he feels like he's in love with her is like free falling from a parachute in an exciting stimulating way" she said. I, on the other hand, think the song is about a dude breaking up with a girl because he's scared of how much he loves her. Hence the stress on "I'm free." The "falling" part, in my opinion, is his acknowledgment that he knows he's making the wrong decision, but knows that he has to do it anyway, because of his own fears of feeling too close to someone. I don't think Rome Girl and I will ever agree on this. But it was nice to have the argument.