bart_calendar ([info]bart_calendar) wrote,
@ 2008-05-11 16:29:00
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Tact
This is how I know I'm getting healthier.

When I phoned my step mom for Mother's Day she started telling me, in detail, about a birthday party she threw for my ex wife's dad last week and how great it was to hang out with my ex wife again.

"I can't believe your father didn't tell you about it," she said.

Instead of responding "Eat shit and die you evil troll," I merely commented, "perhaps he simply knew not to."

Then I let her describe it.

I think I deserve a gold star, a plaque and a martini.

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[info]radiumhead
2008-05-11 02:39 pm UTC (link)
Yeah, you're right.

And you're going to the bar later, you can have the martini.

I dont know how to let shit go, if it was me I wouldve said to her, "I dont want to hear about it why the fuck are you telling me that, what are you, stupid??" Then I wouldve happily argued with her for a half hour.

Your way saves time.

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[info]gentlemaitresse
2008-05-11 03:07 pm UTC (link)
Well, I would have quit interacting with her a LONG time ago, mostly because of things like this.

Either she is completely clueless about what she is doing, or she is a truly hurtful bitch.

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[info]radiumhead
2008-05-11 03:23 pm UTC (link)
I think it could be either one. Or both.

From what he's said about her-on one hand, she might be nasty enough to just be fucking with him.

But on the other, she might be so self absorbed she just goes "blah blah blah" without even paying attention to what hes saying.

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[info]bart_calendar
2008-05-11 07:16 pm UTC (link)
Yep.

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[info]bart_calendar
2008-05-11 07:09 pm UTC (link)
She's my father's wife. He's asked me to treat her with respect, so I try to do so.

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[info]gentlemaitresse
2008-05-12 01:55 am UTC (link)
I don't think it would necessarily be disrespectful to simply avoid interaction with her.

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[info]bart_calendar
2008-05-11 07:15 pm UTC (link)
Or she figures that my brother and I will kiss her ass no matter what as long as we inherit.

Which is a silly thought given that I've left the country and pretty much done everything she's against for the past five years.

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[info]laughingwoman
2008-05-11 03:36 pm UTC (link)
diffusion is the best policy in dealing with difficult people. there's nowhere to go when you diffuse it. sounds like she *knows&* that this information would bother you, that maybe knowing how much it would bother you is one whole reason to throw the party in the first place. if it is, and she finds out that she doesn't get a reaction from you anymore, it might make her stop.

in any case, saving your own energy in not going off on her definitely means you get to reserve it for things much more meaningful. and yes: getting healthier!

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[info]babyblooz
2008-05-11 04:07 pm UTC (link)
I'm proud of you.. you handled that really well. =)

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[info]mattg
2008-05-11 05:43 pm UTC (link)
Well done, sir.

I'll raise a margarita in your honor this afternoon.

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